generation in a way that is neither harsh nor negligent. But before all of that, we need to see the vulnerability of family within the prism of cross-bearing. I don’t know about you, but I don’t want that. I would rather protect myself from the possibility of hurt, with a hard, exterior shell, not the soft vulnerability of breakable bones. Nothing opens one up to more potential for hurt, for more vulnerability, than being part of a family. Parents can nurture you, but they can also reject you. A